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An abuser’s dating profile will not say: “Loves long walks on the beach while picking apart your flaws”

Toxic people know that they are ugly on the inside and know that nobody would be attracted to who they really are.  They are not going to advertise their mental instabilities or their twisted emotional needs.  A narcissist will not explain to you that they need to put others down because of their ‘babydick syndrome’.  A sociopath will not explain to you that they need to hurt others to feel in control.  Toxic people need to pretend to be somebody that they’re not to lure others into a relationship with them.

So, the question you should ask yourself is this: are you attracted to their false self or their true self?

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Go to the police before Child Protective Services

Unfortunately, CPS agencies don’t do a great job at protecting children.  The advocacy group Justice for Children specifically recommends that you go to the police first before CPS:

Fundamentally, most law enforcement officers are better trained to investigate crimes against children than a CPS caseworker. Importantly, since the focus of law enforcement is to bring the perpetrator to the bar of justice, they cannot make their case unless they collect the evidence needed by a prosecutor and protect their “Complaining Witness.” On the other hand, CPS caseworkers have a very high turnover rate, inadequate training in investigation, do NOT perform a criminal investigation, and are conflicted by the opposing mandates of child protection and “family preservation.”

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A guide for teenagers with abusive parents

A guide for teenagers with abusive parents
(right-click → ‘save as’ to download)

The latest version of the guide can be found at PersonalGrowthHelp.com/AbusiveParents/

The 87-page guide contains information on:

  1. How to minimize abuse in the short term.
  2. Long-term options for getting out of an abusive household.
  3. How to undo mental damage caused by abuse.

If you are currently being abused, don’t give up.  You are not legally obligated to live in an abusive household.  There are options available to you for getting out of an abusive situation such as going to the police, getting a restraining order, emancipation, Job Corps, etc.  You still have options even if you have been failed by the police, CPS (child protective services), adults, etc.  If you do not feel safe going home, you do NOT have to go.

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How to stop emetophobia from controlling your life

Many of our reactions to the world are learned.  We aren’t born with a fear of needles; we learned from experience that needles are painful.  After doing so, some of us developed some level of fear towards needles/syringes.  However, we can also unlearn our fears.  Throughout our lives, we commonly unlearn fears such as the fear of riding roller coasters, dealing with the opposite sex, sleeping without our parents in the same room/bed (as a little child), etc. etc.

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