Being abused? Start here.

Ready to start your recovery journey?  Download our free guide and get started now.  It contains seven quick lessons, with steps that you can take to immediately reduce the impact that abuse has on your life.

7 Lessons on Overcoming Abusive Relationships (PDF)

If you’re not sure if there’s hope for you, read on.  First off, you are not crazy.  It is common for abusers to make their victims doubt their own reality.  If you have doubts about whether your suffering is “enough” to be considered abuse, skip ahead to the fourth lesson in the guide (or read this article).

Secondly, you aren’t alone.  There are many people in the world who have gone through something similar to your experiences.  Through their collective knowledge, abuse survivors have shared their experiences as to what works and what doesn’t.  You can benefit from their hard-earned experience by downloading the free guide and getting started on overcoming abuse.  The first lesson will teach you one simple trick to immediately cut out much of the drama in your life.  It will show you a way to make your abuser spend less time using their toxic playbook on you to feed their twisted emotional needs.

Lastly, please take care of yourself because your mental health is no joke.  The last mental effects of abuse often causes more harm than a broken bone would.  It can make it difficult for you to reach your full potential in the workforce or to have normal, healthy relationships.

The guide will get you started on your way to recovery.  You will learn:

  1. A quick fix for making interactions with your abuser manageable (lessons 1 and 2).
  2. To understand why the abuse is happening.
  3. Whether or not what’s happening to you is “real” abuse.
  4. How to stop seeing your abuser as a powerful monster.
  5. Why it’s hard to leave.
  6. How to take the first steps towards healing the lasting mental effects of abuse.

If you are sick and tired of the way that you are being treated, start turning your life around today with 7 lessons on overcoming abusive relationships.

If you’ve found the free guide helpful in cutting toxicity out of your life, you can keep your momentum going.  Check out our more comprehensive guide Saying NO to Abuse: How to stop being a victim and reclaim your life.  It will provide you with even more tools for detaching yourself from abuse (e.g. narcissistic abuse) and to recover from prolonged psychological abuse.

If you are the victim of domestic violence, a sociopath / psychopath abuser, or narcissistic abuse then this guide will help you understand why your abuser is toxic.

12 thoughts on “Being abused? Start here.”

  1. omg the stuff about it being so hard to leave is so true. my friends just don’t get what’s happening and it feels awful to be away from the person you fell in love with. wish it was easier

  2. The first two lessons really did the trick. It’s still super fucked up that I have to bore away my parents so that they will leave me alone. Can’t they just act like mature adults?!?! Wtf. Sometimes I was I was an orphan and didn’t have to deal with my crazy family.

  3. I guess I was already boring my crazy mom off when I was a little kid. She thought that I was shy and quiet but really I was so scared of upsetting her and having her scream at me for HALF AND HOUR. Thanks for the other tips though they help me know that I’m not crazy after all for seeing how truly awful my mom really is. Thanks again.

  4. Let me tell you a story. My therapist put me on some ssri inhibitor for my depression. The first week was hell. Every time I yawned I thought I was going to throw up or something. I couldn’t concentrate and I would zone out all the time. And then I tried to get off it. Don’t get me started!!!!!! Stay away from these quacks trying to push big pharma down our throats. I’m glad I’m not the only one who sees through the nonsense and god bless Peter breggin. The man is a saint.

  5. I’ve been trying to get my best friend to leave her boyfriend ever since he started hitting her. Now I sort of understand why it’s hard for her to leave and hopefully I can get her to start reading this. But I just wish she could get her head screwed on a little straighter and dump that asshole. Anyways, I guess I’m venting a little and just want to know that she won’t keep herself in that situation forever. Wish me luck…

  6. There are some good ideas in here. I have a narcissistic ex who I unfortunately have to deal with due to having a kid together. Its been two years since we broke up. The first two years my tactic was to avoid eye contact and be monosyllabic – I was pretty traumatised and that was my way of coping. It didn’t stop him doing awful stuff but I’m sure it dialled down the drama, since apparently his first divorce (I’m his second) was constant drama and this was more chill.
    My current tactic, since I’m feeling better, is to kill him with sweetness. I say what a shame it is that he didn’t communicate what he wanted clearly enough, or how sad it was that he didn’t stick to the parenting plan and there was negative consequences. I’m trying my best to keep super good boundaries up so I don’t bother getting upset at his idiocy or meannes. So far it has been going ok. Not sure about long term.

  7. Oh hey the first lesson is about the grey rock technique. An additional tip: they only know what you value by the level of your reaction, so you can beat them at their own game by not reacting. Practice your nonreactions with a friend you trust or in a mirror, or go over different things you know they might say to provoke you-and then practice being nonreactive. Because narcissists thrive on chaos and drama, theyll eventually lose interest and turn their attentions elsewhere if they can’t get a rise out of you.
    Stay strong! This isn’t your fault. You aren’t crazy. You’re not overreacting. And you aren’t alone.


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