Restraining orders can help you end harassment and stalking. If the restraining order is violated and there is proof that the violation happened, the courts will punish the offender harder and harder until they finally stop.
To be brutally honest, abuse victims are disadvantaged in legal proceedings because everyday people will have great difficulty understanding the victim’s counterintuitive behavior. Many judges will wrongly assume that abuse victims will immediately flee when they are in danger. Most people are deeply disturbed and confused when abuse victims go back to their abuser. Fans of the pop star Rihanna were quite unhappy and perplexed when she went back to the man who brutally beat her.