When abusers start cutting down their victims, they do not hand them a guide on what they should and shouldn’t do. Here are some pointers on how to avoid common mistakes made by those trapped in an abusive situation.
While every toxic person is different, there are common traits and characteristics that frequently pop up. Here is a list of 50 warnings signs to help you spot and avoid toxic people in your life.
Imagine if a friend were in your position and being abused. What advice would you give them?
Unfortunately, CPS agencies don’t do a great job at protecting children. The advocacy group Justice for Children specifically recommends that you go to the police first before CPS:
Fundamentally, most law enforcement officers are better trained to investigate crimes against children than a CPS caseworker. Importantly, since the focus of law enforcement is to bring the perpetrator to the bar of justice, they cannot make their case unless they collect the evidence needed by a prosecutor and protect their “Complaining Witness.” On the other hand, CPS caseworkers have a very high turnover rate, inadequate training in investigation, do NOT perform a criminal investigation, and are conflicted by the opposing mandates of child protection and “family preservation.”
The latest version of the guide can be found at PersonalGrowthHelp.com/AbusiveParents/
The 87-page guide contains information on:
- How to minimize abuse in the short term.
- Long-term options for getting out of an abusive household.
- How to undo mental damage caused by abuse.
If you are currently being abused, don’t give up. You are not legally obligated to live in an abusive household. There are options available to you for getting out of an abusive situation such as going to the police, getting a restraining order, emancipation, Job Corps, etc. You still have options even if you have been failed by the police, CPS (child protective services), adults, etc. If you do not feel safe going home, you do NOT have to go.