Saying NO to Abuse


$47 (US dollars)

Are you tired of letting your abuser reduce you to an emotional mess even when they’re not around?  Start turning your life around by using the same strategies that thousands of abuse survivors have successfully used to recover.  Saying NO to Abuse: How to stop being a victim and reclaim your life will show you the key steps to stopping abuse and healing the lasting mental wounds caused by it.  It covers:

  • Self-therapy for undoing the illogical connections in your head caused by abuse, such as fear and anxiety when faced everyday situations that vaguely resemble abuse.
  • How to stop the abuse: how to leave for good, how to squash the feelings of wanting to go back to the abuse, how to stay safe, and how to get a restraining order should your abuser try to stalk or harass you.
  • Weaknesses of abusers that can be used against them and used to make their toxic behaviors less frequent.
  • How to handle the three most common forms of abuse: from parents, from romantic partners, and from the workplace.
  • How to take action and make a plan for a lasting recovery.

Proven strategies so that you don’t have to waste time on strategies that don’t work

You can eventually figure out the strategies that work by scouring through websites, forums, stories from abuse survivors, and academic journals.  There’s a lot of information out there,  However, you should be careful about misguided information on overcoming abuse:

  • If you care about children or stepchildren being abused by a toxic parent (e.g. your abuser), you should go to the police before Child Protective Services.  CPS agencies will often help abusers regain custody of the child they have been abusing whereas the police will not.
  • Most psychiatrists are trained to push drugs onto their patients.  Tragically, the drugs often cause more harm than good.  For a quick overview of their dangers, see Peter Breggin MD’s Youtube video “Psychiatric Drugs Are More Dangerous than You Ever Imagined”.
  • Friends, family, and therapists may advise you to reconcile with your abuser (if they don’t understand abuse).  This is usually terrible advice.  You do not need to have a relationship with somebody who will hurt you physically or emotionally.

The guide Saying NO to Abuse will help you navigate through the advice out there so that you can separate the wheat from the chaff.  The guide will point you towards proven strategies from abuse survivors and research studies.  Learn how to mitigate abuse, deal with abusers, and to heal the mental scars left behind by abuse.

No risk to you

We know how damaging abuse is and we don’t want to put barriers between you and your recovery.  If you would like a refund for any reason, simply contact us within 60 days and we will issue you a refund.  Beyond 60 days, contact us and we might still be able to issue a refund. You do not have to provide a reason for wanting a refund.  You’ve been through enough already so you don’t need to justify yourself to us.

Information for specific types of abuse

The guide covers:

  • Narcissistic abuse.  These types of abusers have grand fantasies about themselves and do not ever want to admit that they might have a flaw.  They may bully you into supplying them with adoration, admiration, and adulation.  If you don’t supply them, they will constantly devalue you and criticize you so that their social standing is higher than yours.  Or, they might simply discard you and seek a new source of supply.
  • Sociopaths.  Abusers with sociopathic tendencies need to feel like they’re in control of their world.  They need to hurt you so that they don’t feel powerless.
  • Parental abuse.  While society idolizes the fantasy that parents should have a special bond with their children, your situation is quite different than that fantasy.  Your parents may clip your wings or consistently prioritize their desires over your best interests.
  • Abuse in romantic relationships.  Your partner initially put on a mask (their false self) and showered you with love, attention, and affection.  As the relationship wore on, the mask began to slip off.  Your partner started paying little attention to your needs, no longer respected your well-being, and stopped showering you with attention.  They may be isolating you from your friends and family so that they can control you better.
  • Abuse in the workplace.  You may have unwittingly joined a toxic workplace where a toxic boss or coworker is constantly causing drama with you.


  • Understand the abuser’s tactics
  • Understand the abuser’s weaknesses
  • Fighting the enemy within (how to undo the lasting effects of abuse)
  • How to stop the abuse
  • Dealing with toxic people at work
  • Dealing with toxic parents
  • Dealing with toxic romantic relationships
  • Appendices
    • Professional therapy and other options
    • Divorce with children involved
    • How to become an independent adult
    • Dealing with sexually abusive partners
    • Restraining orders

No hassle refunds:  If you are unsatisfied with your purchase for any reason, please contact us within 60 days and we will issue a refund.  Simply tell us the email address that you gave us (or any email addresses that you may have entered).  You do not have to provide a reason for requesting a refund.

Other notes:

  • Credit cards (Visa, Mastercard, Amex, Discover) are accepted and will be processed via Paypal.  A Paypal account is not required although you can pay with your Paypal account if you have one.  Your financial information is not exposed to us as payments are processed securely by Paypal.
  • Please use a valid email address as the product download link will be emailed to you.  We will not spam you or give away your contact information to other parties.  We do not ship dead trees because a book lying around may alert your abuser to your intentions, potentially causing danger to you.
  • PDF format, 65+ pages.  If your device can load and display our free guide, then your device can read PDFs.

4 thoughts on “Saying NO to Abuse”

  1. I’ve been married 26 years and am slowly coming to terms with the fact that I should stand up for myself and leave. It’s still hard. This book has helped me recognize why I didn’t leave and that I need to re-program my brain to stop seeking validation from my spouse. Making the first step in self-therapy was incredibly scary and painful. Digging through my traumatic memories was not fun! But now that I’ve done it, I’m glad I did. I finally feel the anxiety lifting when it comes to my spouse… who will soon be my ex-spouse. For the first time in years I am hopeful about my future. I’m glad books like this exist.

  2. started going through this and it’s been slow so far. when i was going through the section on abuser tactics, so much of it rang true for me. had to ugly cry for a bit. thanks for writing this and i hope i can finally leave my boyfriend and not go flying right back to his arms again. sigh

  3. Oh boy. Wish I had discovered this sooner before spending spending so much money on therapy. Now I understand why I wasn’t getting anywhere- my therapist was always trying to imply that it was somehow *my* fault that I don’t love my parents. I don’t love them because of their crazy gaslighting and their constant mindfuckery since I was a kid. The self-therapy stuff in the guide has really helped me be less stressed out about my crazy parents. Sorry if this comment is a little rant-ey but I just had to let it out. Whew. Y’all take care of yourselves.

  4. For 7 years, my boyfriend would constantly make me feel like everything was my fault. I stupidly went back to him every time he apologized and thought that he would hug me and start acting like a human being (spoiler alert: he didn’t change). I’m starting to put my life back together and start doing the things that he made me stop doing. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don’t make the same mistake I did and get stuck in the cycle of abuse. You can’t change your abuser but you can change yourself. Stay strong <3


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